My wife and I have a great marriage. Do we have the occasional spat? Of course we do. Just as muscles grow from putting strain on them, I believe marriages grow just the same. However, this isn’t about fighting, or spats. It’s about adding to the love bank.
My mom remarried when I was an adult, and I didn’t personally care too much for the guy, however I learned more about how to treat a wife from watching him, than from any other source. He constantly complimented her. Whenever he walked in the door, he told her that she was the most beautiful woman in the world. Wow did she ever eat that up. She would always wave the compliment off, but she had a grin while doing so.
I brought that “strategy” to my marriage. I wake my wife up every morning by telling her she is the most beautiful woman in the world (she is!) and I’m very blessed to have her in my life. Whenever I can, I let her know how beautiful she is to me. She loves hearing it. I don’t want some other guy, one day, telling her this without her having heard it from me first.
A few weeks ago while my wife was running errands, I was in the yard working hard, sweating, tired, ready to go inside and cool off. My phone buzzed in my pocket and I pulled off the gloves, a little irritated at the interruption. A text from my wife simply said, “You are my hero.” Talk about a boost in energy! I felt a shot of adrenaline shoot through me and I redoubled my efforts to get a two-day job finished in only one. When she got home, I told her how much I appreciated her text (and that she was the most beautiful woman in the world). She’s started telling me this whenever I go out of the way to do something around the house, or for her, and each time that same excitement jumps in my heart.
Two simple things that make a huge difference in our marriage.